Updated: Oct 17
Anxiety is amongst one of the worst feelings and stems from us anticipating that something fearful is going to happen. It can leave you feeling you cant cope, helpless, vulnerable and feel you need to avoid situations, so hide. Unfortunately this behaviour rewards avoidance. I know this from first hand experience and to this day still fight with the voice inside my head, telling me that I could get hurt.
In the society we are living in right now, people are suffering more strain and stresses, especially as we are still going through the Covid-19 pandemic. Life seems to be leaving more and more people anxious and unsure about what their future has in store for them.
Even after all the years of inner work that I have done, I still found my own anxiety going through the roof at the start of the pandemic. So instead of going back to my old ways of coping, which was drinking and taking anti-depressants I found other ways to handle my anxiety.
In my experience, the more you try and fight anxiety, the more tense you become and can come out as anger, well it did in my case.
Exercise - My first step, was to get my old kick boxing bag up for exercise and to get my mind focusing on something else. Exercise is one of the best natural anti-anxiety solutions out there. Physical activity raises the serotonin and endorphins levels, helping us feel emotionally better inside. If hard exercise isn't something you can physically do, try walking, yoga, dancing what ever you can do, just get up, get out.
Mediation - The mind cannot focus on more than one thing at a time, I found spending 10 minutes per day and focus on my breathing, calmed my mind down, giving me free space and cleared my mind.
Say NO - Know your limitations. Our brain only has so much capacity and we only have so many hours in the day. Saying no isn't selfish, it reduces overwhelm which is paramount in combating anxiety. We all need inner strength and need to look after our own inner strength, we cant help others if we are falling apart.
Sleep - You are not a robot, get plenty of good sleep every night. We need several stages of sleep to function and sleep deprivation effects the body in so many ways, such as memory loss,lack of concentration, weekended immune system and mood changes.
Cry/Talk - I was taught from an early age that crying is a sign of weakness, talking to others shows vulnerability and leaves us open to being hurt. This left me isolating myself, infact it also allowed my aggressive side to take charge. If i was aggressive, no one would get close and this s left me feeling alone and unloved for so many years. Since I started my personal development journey, I have learnt the above may have some truth aspect but also stops the great people coming into our lives. I've since found that crying and talking about how I feel has allowed me to release pent up emotions, strain and a hell of a lot of pressure.
Journaling - Reflecting has been a fantastic and priceless technique for me. I started this just after I lost my mum in 2018. I had so many things to cope with and do, but my anxiety started to get the better of me because, I was anxious about how my biological father and his girlfriend was going to react, to the fact that my mother wanted to be buried with her late son. If you exaggerate your thoughts, that will effect how you feel, which will then show in your actions. Monitoring them all, has been a life changing experience for me and can for you too.